Parenting & Circle of Security™
Sometimes the hardest part of parenting is facing everything it brings up in you.
This work isn't about trying to fix you or your children. It's about understanding what's happening beneath the behaviour, and learning how to respond in ways that will help all of you.
If you're feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or just a little unsure of what your child needs from you, we can start there.
A Little About Me
I'm a Registered Nurse with more than 30 years of nursing experience, including working in child and family health, public health and the early years. I've been a registered Circle of Security Parenting and Classroom™ facilitator since 2017.
I'm also a mother of three boys, including twins who arrived eleven weeks early. So alongside the professional knowledge, I know something about the exhaustion, uncertainty and sheer humanness of raising children.
Both matter deeply in the way I work.
What I Offer
1:1 Parent Support
For parents and caregivers who want somewhere to think through what is happening with their child, and what may be happening in themselves alongside it.
We can work with a particular behaviour or relationship difficulty, a pattern that keeps repeating, or simply make space to understand things differently.
I draw on attachment, Circle of Security™, nervous system regulation and decades of experience working with children and families, but the starting point is always you and your family.
Sessions are 60–90 minutes and available in person in Nelson or online.
$185 NZD per session, including GST.
If cost is a barrier, we can talk.
Circle of Security Parenting™
Circle of Security Parenting™ is a relationship-based programme that helps parents and caregivers understand what children may be communicating through their behaviour.
Rather than giving you another set of parenting techniques, it offers a way of seeing what is happening in the relationship: when your child needs support to explore, when they need you to welcome them back, and what can make those moments difficult for us as parents.
One of the things I value most about Circle of Security is that it doesn't ask parents to be perfect. It asks us to become more curious about what our child needs, what gets stirred up in us, and what happens between us when things go wrong.
Through the programme we explore:
Understanding behaviour as communication rather than simply something to manage
Recognising when your child needs support to explore and when they need comfort or connection
Noticing where your own experiences can influence how you respond
Becoming more confident repairing the relationship when things are challenging
The programme can be completed individually or as part of a small group.
Current Options & Pricing
I offer Circle of Security Parenting™ in a few different ways, depending on whether you prefer to learn alongside other parents or work privately at your own pace.
Small online group
Live online Circle of Security Parenting™ in a small group, with space for reflection, conversation and questions along the way.
$350 NZD per household
Partners and caregivers are welcome to attend together at no additional cost.
Small in-person group
Join me in Nelson for an in-person Circle of Security Parenting™ group.
The group format gives you the opportunity to learn alongside other parents and caregivers while still having space to reflect on what the material means for your own family.
$395 NZD per household
Partners and caregivers are welcome to attend together at no additional cost.
1:1 Circle of Security Parenting™
For parents or caregivers who would prefer to work through the programme privately, with more space to explore what is happening within their own family.
This option allows us to slow things down, spend more time with the parts that are most relevant to you, and bring your own parenting experiences into the work as we go.
4-session intensive: $825
7-session private programme: $995
Payment plans are available, and partners or caregivers are welcome to attend together at no additional cost.
All prices include GST.
If cost would prevent you from taking part, please get in touch. I'm always happy to have a conversation about what might be possible.
→ Join the Circle of Security waitlist
What Parents Have Said
“I feel more confident. I know I am a good enough parent.”
“Absolutely fantastic, this has changed the way I view all relationships in my life.”
Not Ready To Reach Out?
You're welcome to download my Emotional Regulation Guide for Parents.
It's a simple place to start for the days when everyone's nervous system has had enough.
→ Download the parenting guide
Not Sure Where To Begin?
You're welcome to book a free 20-minute conversation. You don't need to have worked out exactly what the problem is before we talk.
→ Book your free 20-minute call
Looking for Circle of Security-informed professional development for an education or community team?
→ Email: hello@nickycooper.life
